Katie Todd TV

Prove Love – of Yourself

Posted on 03. Nov, 2009 by ChiroPam in Relationships

Proving Love

Katie Todd TV’s episode about Proving Your Love to Others is enlightening. She talks about how many people measure their self-worth by working and by achievements. If this is all you measure your life upon, you’re going to create a void that you’ll never be able to fill — despite huge achievements.

This kind of thinking, with a master / slave archetype, can be detrimental to your relationships. While providing for your family and having accomplishments can make you feel worthy and grateful, your loved ones can’t love you based on your achievements alone.  Consider your achievements not just as a ____ (fill in your career here). Consider your achievements as a husband, father, friend, mother, wife, sister, etc.

Some husbands, for instance, think of their role as being the provider alone. Instead of nurturing and having fun with their wives and children, they engulf themselves in their work. Very often, this stems from pain and lack of self-worth and hurts their marriage and their relationship with their kids.

Many mothers work tirelessly for a perfectly kept house to the degree that they won’t sit and enjoy themselves with the kids and their spouse because they need everything “perfect”. Is your life an endless cycle of chores that are never done? Do you allow yourself to relax and enjoy your achievements?

Do you sit and enjoy coffee after dinner with your spouse or do you feel guilty if you don’t clean everything immediately? There’s an old saying,

“The dishes will keep. The family won’t.”  Measuring your worth by your possessions or your job accomplishments alone is harmful and self-destructive behaviour.

To demonstrate love to others you need to also love yourself  enough to realise that you are worthy of love, even if you don’t have a laundry list of achievements yet. Measuring your achievements shouldn’t leave you feeling like you don’t measure up to deserve unconditional love.  If you haven’t had a pay raise in a few years, if you haven’t been able to organise every single thing in your home, if you have 10 pounds to lose, etc…these things shouldn’t mean that you’re not worthy of love and fun.

While desire for self-improvement in life is healthy, it shouldn’t prevent you from enjoying the life you have right now. Self-improvement is a journey and life is about the journey more than about the ultimate destination.

Tags: love advice, Relationships, Self Improvement, self-love, self-worth