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Relationship Tantrums – Are You Guilty of This?

Posted on 21. Oct, 2009 by ChiroPam in Relationships

Relationship Tantrums

Because marriages consist of two separate people, stress impacts both of those people differently.   Spouse A may lash out in anger at stress and Spouse B may “clam up” and go quiet.  Both are reacting to their levels of stress in different ways and both ways of reacting could be harmful to the marriage.

In Katie’s episode: Mental Breakdown Part 2, she talks about the damage that can be done to a relationship as a result of tantrums.  How many times have you found yourself yelling at your spouse about something seemingly insignificant and starting a big argument about it?  Most often, your frustration comes from somewhere else in your life but you react to something in front of you instead.

Tantrums can be really damaging in a relationship.  Your behaviour could hurt your loved one’s ability to feel safe and respected with you.  It can cause them to lash out or to go quiet and retreat from you.  How do you feel when someone’s taking their frustrations out on you? What often happens is that things roll downhill So, your spouse’s boss yells at him, he yells at you, you yell at the kids or the dog.  Over time you can retreat into a state of depression and damage relationships as well as diminish your feelings of self worth.  While we certainly don’t mean to hurt the ones we love by our words, it can happen and harm a relationship.

How do you handle your spouse when they’re taking frustrations out on you?  How do you stop yourself from doing this to your loved ones?  Learning about archetypes could help you come up with a good approach.  Understanding what makes you “tick” and understanding who your loved one is can help you take the right approach.   Watch Katie Todd’s Mental Breakdown Part 2 episode for further insight and consider reading her bestselling book Who Am I?  A free electronic copy is available for download in the sidebar of this blog.

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